How to Have the Wedding of Your Dreams - Not the One Everyone Else Says You Should Have
Posted on July 31, 2008 - Filed Under wedding
Your big day is coming up and it feels like there are thousands of things you still need to do and even more details you need to take care of.
It doesn’t help that your mother wants you to wear her old wedding dress and your future mother-in-law simply insists you should wear that gorgeous dress she saw the other day (the one she already got you to try on and you felt it was the most unflattering item of clothing you’d ever encountered in your life.)
Your parents want you to have the wedding reception in their garden. Your almost-in-laws want you to have the reception in the room upstairs at the local pub/community centre/country club.
Your parents want traditional wedding food for at the party. Your in-laws want that too, but from a different caterer.
You‘d actually love to wear that stunning Vera Wang wedding dress that made you feel like a princess, have already chosen a wonderful party location and have a completely different caterer in mind. But you don’t want to offend people…
Issues like these can add to the stress of planning your wedding. Everyone means well and wants the best for you and your future husband (who might have made himself scarce by now and is staying well and truly out of it) but what about you? This is supposed to be your big day. Everybody tells you so, just they have varying ideas of what your big day should be like.
If you recognise yourself in this scenario, I advise you to take a deep breath… and to stop worrying. It happens to brides all over the world. The details I mentioned may be different in your situation, but the pressure from all sides to have your wedding just so is very common.
How do you envision your perfect wedding? And what about your partner, how does he envision that special moment when you will exchange your vows?
Don’t worry about what everyone else wants for you - fulfil your own dreams. This is your wedding, after all, and you need to be happy with it. Its memories will last a lifetime.
Don’t worry about stepping on toes. At the end of the day, the people who offer you all these insights in what they think you should do, are people who care about you. If you gently explain that, actually, you had something different in mind, they will soon come around. And if not, just gently remind them that you are the one who is going to be wed that day.
Once the big day arrives, they will be there. They will probably shed a few tears at how beautiful and happy you look and what a lovely wedding it is. Your wedding, just the way you dreamed it would be. The start of fond memories and a happily ever after.
This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.Prye.Com/ which is a site for Wedding Invitations.
Tags: marriage, weddingMarriage Proposals - Get Everyone Involved
Posted on July 30, 2008 - Filed Under wedding
Sometimes the best things in life everyone knows about except you. The best surprise you can give someone is when everyone they know - family, friends, co-workers - all know about it first! The unsuspecting person is not only surprised by your gift, but also taken back at the fact she had no idea and everyone else did.
When planning how to propose to your girlfriend you might want to think about taking things to a grand scale. The office is usually the least expected place for you to propose to her, so it is time to get to work on her co-workers.
Find out when she takes lunch, or when she will not be in the office. Make sure to get there not too long after she leaves so you can maximize the amount of time inside. Before you go in you should have a reasonably good idea on what you want to do for the marriage proposal. This way as soon as you round up her co-workers you can begin the planning.
Now everyone is going to want to chime in with their ideas. Do not be so quick to ignore them. Remember, they work there everyday, so they might have a better idea to fit certain situations or circumstances. You will also have to keep the general wedding chatter to a minimum. If some people there did not know that the two of you had talked about marriage then you are bound to get bombarded with questions about it all. You do not have much time to talk, so keep it to the basics and stay focused on the plan.
Since you are going to be showing up to her workplace to propose, you will most likely need some time to get inside and set anything up if needed. This means you need an inside accomplis to help you out. Get a close friend or co-worker to take your girlfriend out to lunch or keep her in a certain location of the building for that time period. Things have to be on a tight schedule so make sure they are aware of that. If you agree to have her out of the office at 2pm and back at 3pm, then stick to these times carefully. Otherwise you risk being seen or worse, not being able to do the marriage proposal.
If any outside items or people need to be there, be sure to clear it with your girlfriend’s boss first. For instance, if you are going to jump out of a cake (for the record, I do not recommend doing this) then make sure the boss is ok with a huge cake coming into the building. Also make sure security knows about this. The last thing you want is to be stopped at the door and frisked because you are rolling in a huge cake through the front doors.
There are many other things you can do in order to lead up to the momeny, but that is for another discussion. These tips will take care of the basics and absolute necessities that you need in place in order to pull off a marriage proposal at her workplace. Lastly, make sure you tell everyone that this is to remain a secret! Let them know that she has no idea you are going to propose so they do not ruin the surprise.
For more marriage proposals, ideas, stories, and tips on the big day, visit the author’s website (http://www.myproposalideas.com).
Tags: engagement checklist, how to propose, marriage proposal, proposals, wedding engagementsYour Personal Wedding Invitations
Posted on July 29, 2008 - Filed Under wedding
When planning your wedding, leave sufficient time to consider the invitations. The look of them, the wording of them, the intent behind their presentationall send a message to the recipients and set the tone for the wedding itself.
Traditional wording for your wedding invitations would be something like this:
Mr. & Mrs. John White
Request the honor of your presence
To witness the bonding together
Of their daughter Evelyn Linda White
And
Mr. Michael Warren Jessop
Son of Mr. And Mrs. Winston Jessop
This would, of course, be followed by the particulars.
A less formal approach might read something like this:
Evelyn Linda White
And
Michael Warren Jessop
Invite you to witness
Their vows of love
On their wedding day.
(And so on)
There is nothing inherently right or wrong about a formal versus a casual approach to your wedding invitations. That decision simply depends on the scale of the event.
There are situations when it would be appropriate to include the invitation to the wedding reception with the wedding invitation. At other times, it would be more prudent to create a separate invitation for both events.
A separate invitation to the reception only might look like this:
Evelyn Linda White
And
Mr. Michael Warren Jessop
Request the pleasure of your company
At their wedding reception,
Sunday, the tenth of June
3:00 P.M.
St. Andrew’s Church
3268 Sixth Avenue
Black tie requested
RSVP
888 376-9882
Note: E-mail RSVPs are still not acceptable unless the event is informal. Also, there is rarely, if ever, a time when it would be appropriate to invite a guest to your wedding but not to your reception.
A fairly new accessory to the wedding and reception invitations is the “reply card.” This is simply a separate card included inside the invitation, with lines to be filled out. Etiquette requires you to provide a stamp on the reply card’s envelope.
The rules are not as important, however, as your intention. If you put a little conscious energy into every phase of your wedding, including your invitations, you will manifest a clear and ringing expression of your love and commitment, and a beautiful memory for a lifetime.
Stephen Kreutzer is a freelance publisher based in Cupertino, California. He publishes articles and reports in various ezines and provides wedding information on http://www.justwedding.info.
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